Don’t let the holiday season turn you into a stressed-out Grinch. If you feel overwhelmed, take a moment to appreciate what gives you joy and, if festivities get too hectic, just be still and breathe.
That’s advice from Karen Cleven, director of programs and services at Share Family and Community Services, who says the expectations at this time of year are often “way too high.”
“People need to take a moment to connect to the things and people that really bring them joy and meaning,” said Cleven.
For those who are lonely, stressed, experiencing grief or a change in their lives, this is the time of year to be especially careful of mental wellness.
Cleven advises that it’s easier to deal with others’ expectations if you have a good handle on your own values and what’s important to you. For example, if you decide a small gift is best for your budget or a purchased appetizer is as good homemade to cut down on the extra tasks, that's OK.
Don’t fret about letting others down, said Cleven, who also suggested it’s good to discuss those shared values with people closest to you before the holidays to avoid potential conflict.
“If you’re really searching for meaning and values within your own heart, it’s much easier to to stand up to other people’s expectations and disappointments,” Cleven said.
If things get out of hand, talk to a professional. Share’s Talk To Help will accept inquiries at 604-937-6969 or [email protected]. Fees are based on a sliding scale while problem gambling and substance use services are free.
As for how to deal with the next few days, Cleven advice is simple: “Remember that it’s all going to be over soon.”
