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NELSON: Real connection is missing today

M y young, tea party colleague over there called me a "fuddy duddy" when I suggested we should do something about election sign carpet-bombing.

My young, tea party colleague over there called me a "fuddy duddy" when I suggested we should do something about election sign carpet-bombing.

Well, if he thinks that's old fashioned, I wonder what my happening millennial colleague will think this week when I tell him that digital communication hinders rather than enhances real communication.

"OMG, you're so 10 years ago," texts my colleague between tweets.

Yes, call me a techno Luddite (just Google it) but I think human communication moves backwards as social media moves forward.

Social media, Facebook, texting, tweeting and other digital "communication" bombard us. As widens our contact list, so narrows real communication.

But contact isn't communication. Communication involves more than just ubiquitous, staccato messages written in some digital Esperanto. Real communication involves personal contact, body language, empathy, smiling, helping, give and take, and thinking it over for a while. It takes time.

But who has time for any of that nonsense with our faces frozen on a screen, thumbs moving a hundred miles an hour?

And that's the tragedy of the virtual world: Its speed and power can overshadow real world communication.

Cursive writing was an early casualty and now it's gone, like Blockbuster Video.

Although writing was logistically complicated - envelopes, stamps, postal delivery - the mere act of investing the time and effort to write a personal letter communicated in itself a level of personal respect.

Smartphone appendages consume us as we share glib trivia with the world. Those 140 characters may be pithy or poignant but there is little personal commitment, evidence or even truth required. It's not communication, it's a look-at-me cacophony.

In short, we can tweet, sweet, tweet, and we usually do.

I worry that we are becoming less capable of face-to-face communication; that our virtual world will soon see real human communication go the way of cursive handwriting and, tragically, Blockbuster Video.

The sheer volume of digital messaging makes any real communication impossible. The digital stimuli we deal with increases exponentially, demanding quicker and shallower responses, making real communication less and less likely.

But my unquestioning, LinkedIn colleague thinks faster, quicker and shallower is better.

To which I say, LOL.